Kind Conflict

FIGHTING TO FLOURISH
IN RELATIONSHIPS

This event is scheduled for September 13.

Healing begins when we stop fighting to win.

Kind Conflict: Fighting to Flourish in Relationships will be a powerful and practical morning focused on transforming how we approach conflict in marriage and close relationships. With biblical wisdom and clinical insight, Dr. John Cox will help us move from control and hurt toward connection, healing, and mutuality.

Whether you’re married, dating, or walking alongside others in ministry, this evening will offer tools for grace-filled communication and lasting closeness.

Attendee Resources

We recommend the following resources to help prepare you for the conversation:

  • These questions can help guide you in asking God to prepare your heart as you interact with these resources:

    1. Am I ready to listen, learn, and be equipped?

    • Have I asked God to prepare my heart to be open to what he wants me to hear?

    • Am I willing to take what I learn and apply it to my life, my family, and my relationships?

    • Am I open to being challenged, corrected, or stretched by God’s truth?

    2. Where have I allowed culture to shape my views more than Scripture?

    • Have I unknowingly adopted worldly attitudes about relationships and interacting with loved ones?

    • Do I truly believe that God’s Word is the ultimate authority on relationships?

    • Am I willing to surrender my personal opinions, cultural influences, or past experiences to align with Scripture, even when I feel hurt or misunderstood?

    3. How can I better disciple my family or those I influence?

    • Am I faithfully modeling biblical truth in my home, peer group, and community?

    • What patterns do I recognize in how I handle conflict?

    • How can I create a space where people feel safe to disagree with me?

    • Do I tend to focus on being right, or being close?

    • James 1:19-20 - Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

    • Proverbs 15:1 - A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

    • Ephesians 4:2-3 - With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

    • Romans 12:18 - If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.

  • From Dr. John L. Cox’s podcast, "Good Enough Living" :

Dr. John L. Cox, clincal psychologist

More about
Dr. John L. Cox

Dr. John L. Cox is a clinical psychologist, and has been in practice at Live Oak Psychological Associates for 33 years. He received his B.A. in Psychology and English from Ole Miss, and a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy from Reformed Theological Seminary. He received his doctorate in clinical psychology from Rosemead School of Psychology in Los Angeles.

Dr. Cox’s practice is broad in focus, offering individual therapy for adults for a range of issues including depression, anxiety, addictions, OCD and bipolar disorders. He also offers relational and marital therapy, as well as consultation regarding problems with children.

John is also the host of the podcast “Good Enough Living,” where you can tune for help making sense of your romantic relationship, your kids, and even issues like depression and dealing with jerky people. It’s a good podcast…well, it’s Good Enough.

Dr. Cox has been married for 39 years and has three grown children. His therapeutic focus is grounded in his Christian faith as he strives to integrate God’s way of leading us toward growth with the most competent professional psychological understanding derived from research and experience.

Questions?